when you hear that text message sound you jump up like toast out of a toaster. I thought finally F-I-N-A-L-L-Y I found someone that has everything I want (which is actually a short list).
1. Have Your Shit (sorry mom) Together
2. Love Sports
3. Have Big Muscles
There may be a few other things on my list, but trust me those three are pretty major.
Man, he made me happy. Everything he said was hilarious or witty. His body muscle ratio was perfect. His height was perfect. He even had the perfect career. After a few months, I slowly (far too slowly) started to realize that I thought he was the one and he thought I was probably number two or three on his roster.
I went into straight Bridget Jones mode: wallow, cry, overanalyze, ice cream, repeat.
Maybe two weeks later, my buddy Josh asked what was going on with Mr. Perfect. I told him what had happened, how I found out and how it made me feel. Josh's straight guy super short yet sincere response was "....but it was good while it lasted. Someone hasn't made you that happy in years." That sentence and a half paralyzed me. I was thinking he was going to give me a full guy dissertation and decode the secret on how to capture Mr. Perfect's heart. What he gave me was a change of perspective.
I don't want to get long winded, but within the last week someone in my life belittled me. In those few minutes of being belittled, I sat there half listening and thought (honest to God) how can I find the positive in this horrible situation. Beauty arose from numerous friends taking their valuable time to make sure I was ok, text messages of care and concern came flying in from every friend direction, and some broken friendships were fully restored. I can't thank that person enough for being rude, because it showed me all the people in my life who aren't.
Here recently with the help of a few good books, soul searching and powerful conversations, I realized that changing your perspective can be as powerful as changing the situation.
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Daily Challenge:
What's the most pressing difficult situation or relationship you are facing right? How can you change your perspective?
I know a lot of people that are angry because someone special was taken out of their lives, why not reflect on how incredible it was to have them in your life? What about that ex that left you with kids. I'm sure it's not easy to be thankful about that relationship, but focus on the beautiful lives that were created. What about that boss, child, friend or whomever that doesn't make enough time for you, it's not easy, but focus and be truly grateful for those moments that you DO share.
I found this quote that has changed my life "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
Song of The Day:
Florence and The Machine: Shake It Out
(my favorite line is "it's hard to dance with the devil on your back, so shake him off")
UberFact:
There are more barrels of Bourbon in Kentucky than there are people.
Mild Obsession:
Marc Allante's work is my current obsession.
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